Self Lovin' & Why it's Important..

I hear you when you say Self Love is a term that is thrown around A LOT and I know for some of us it can feel a little jarring but the true definition of Self Love is ‘to have a regard for one’s own well-being and happiness’ which if you ask me, is something we should all be doing! Self Love is more than lighting a candle, putting a face mask on and having a bath, whilst I do 100% advocate all of those things they aren’t the only ways to feel that we have ticked the wellbeing boxes. For me honouring my Self Love is a daily practice and here are a few of the things I do to keep myself feeling well.. Honouring my boundaries - I understand this isn’t what typically comes to mind but I honestly believe it is one of the most important things when it comes to considering your happiness! It’s so easy to get caught up in saying yes to things to keep others happy and often before we have even considered how it feels for us. We can get into the habit of trying to fill our time to the max to make it feel ‘productive’, however what this often leads to is burnout, a sense of resentment and not feeling in charge of our own time. I encourage you to pause and truly connect to yourself before the next time you say yes because you feel you should, ask yourself how it is truly going to make you feel! Daily moments of silence - Again, sounds simple right?! We live in a time where overstimulation is REAL, there is always noise or distraction coming from our phones, the TV, conversations etc. Dedicate some time to just sitting in pure silence, not silence whilst you’re scrolling through social media but total undistracted silence. Just you and your breath! It feels disconcerting at first because we’ve got so used to focusing on other things but after a few attempts it starts to feel truly blissful. One of my favourite times of the day is just sitting with my breath and checking in with how I’m actually feeling, it could start as a dedicated 1 minute slot and slowly work your way up! Trust me, it’s great for burning off that mental fatigue! Asking for help - Being connected and having a regard for your own wellbeing also means knowing when it’s time to ask for help! One of the kindest things we can do for ourselves is to be honest about when things are starting to feel too much, sometimes the simplest act of help can make a world of difference and help to take a weight off our shoulders. One person can only do so much and we aren’t designed to make everything work alone, you deserve to be supported! I hope these have given you a slightly different view on how self love can look! I think we get very caught up on it being about cosy nights in and little luxuries which certainly have a place, but for me it looks more like daily/weekly habits that help us to stay connected to how we’re feeling and honouring our energy! The more we practice Self Love, the more we are able to demonstrate the importance to others around us.. good energy is contagious! As always, love to hear what you think in the comments below!

Elle x

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